My Father, My Brother

A bittersweet day … a day of contemplation, thinking about my Dad and the lessons he taught me. Father’s Day.
Dreaming of my Brother. Gone from us today for 23 years. He is so dearly missed. An Anniversary.

Both tremendous male influences in my life. Without them both, I would not be nearly the brave little girl that resides within me, who has blossomed beyond the realms of a tortured soul (as a teen, I was just that).

I’ve learned from them both:

  • music and art are synonymous in both magnitude and beauty
  • by trying to never incur debt, I have freedom beyond any boundaries. This has proven itself to be priceless in my nomadic travels.
  • if I were to have debt, I should pay it off immedicately or as best as possible with the least amount of impact
  • I can accomplish anything that I dare to dream of
  • fierce independence
  • road trips are the spice and education of life
  • take calculated risks on my own terms rather just following the crowd
  • I will forever be indebted to Mother Earth. A debt which I continue to pay off in my daily actions through honour, gratitude and servitude, making as little impact as is possible.

“My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.”  ~ Clarence Kelland

What life lessons has your Father and siblings taught you?

Happy Father’s Day Dad!!! 

Father’s Day

Dad & his guitarFather’s Day has been a bittersweet day of memories for our family (especially for my Father), with losing my brother Kenny 22 years ago. My Father’s brother, Uncle Reg, also died on this day, 14 years ago. So as you can imagine, it’s especially important for me to honour the leading men in my life on this day. So each and every year, regardless of where I am in the world, I call my beloved Dad’s ~ and yes, I have two! To be so blessed, with both Father’s still thriving and prominent in my life, our lives, is truly a godsend. And daily, I make a small prayer of gratitude for all that I have in my life. I am so fortunate. What a remarkable life! Dad # 2

Family is where it is at

It was a fabulous weekend for family … Bill celebrated his 84th birthday and my Father came to town on Sunday night. Dad was just passing through for a quick visit, but in this instance, quality is always better than quanitity.
Dad, my husband slaDE~ and I

We all savoured a fabulous succulent meal at ‘Moti Mahal’. Fine Indian food dining at its best, in my own humble opinion.
Dad and Bill and I
I was delighted for Dad to finally meet Bill (they mutually felt the same). Trying to tie these two men down for dinner is a difficult feat as it is, but at the same time in the same city, magic!
Dad and Bill

The next morning we were able to share in a hearty breakfast and some stretching and yoga postures, before Dad hit the road in his big shiny fancy transport truck.
Dad and his truck

Top Ten Father’s Day Movies

As posted on Kaboose, Jane Louise Boursaw picks her top 10 favourite Father’s Day movies. Click on the movie title link to see a YouTube video … hope that you enjoy!!

#10
Chitty Chitty Bang Bang
When eccentric single-dad Caractacus Potts invents a revolutionary car, a foreign government becomes interested and will do anything to get their hands on it.

#9
Father of the Bride
George and Nina Banks are the parents of young Annie, whose journey from girlhood to womanhood has seemed oh so short. She’s just about ready to head down the aisle, which has George shaking in his sneakers.

#8
Paper Moon
Newly orphaned Addie temporarily falls into the care of small-time con artist Moses Pray when he gives her a lift to her aunt’s house. Turns out she’s the better grifter and he’s not such a loner.

#7
Mr. Mom
When Jack loses his job, he and wife Caroline decide that he’ll stay home with the kids while she goes off to work. Oh, if he only knew what he was getting into…

#6
National Lampoon’s Vacation
Chaos ensues when the Griswold family embarks on a cross-country road trip to the Wally World theme park.

#5
Field of Dreams
An Iowa corn farmer hears voices in his head commanding him to build a baseball diamond in his fields. Once he does the Chicago Black Sox show up to play, including one very special player.

#4
About a Boy
Hugh Grant plays a London hipster who passes himself off as a single dad to meet women—sure of his ability to say buh-bye when they talk commitment. But his bachelorhood is in jeopardy when he meets 12-year-old Marcus (Nicholas Hoult) and his hippie mom (Toni Collette).

#3
Three Men and a Baby
Three bachelors find themselves forced to take care of a baby left on their step by one of the guy’s girlfriends.

#2
Parenthood
Gil and Karen Buckmans are your average Midwestern couple, dealing with high-stress jobs and estranged relatives, all the while raising their kids to be good people. And somehow, they never lose their sense of humor – especially Gil.

#1 (One of my top picks as well!)
The Pursuit of Happyness
uring a string of bad luck, single dad Chris Gardner finds himself living in shelters and eating at soup kitchens, all the while telling his son that even though times are hard, he’ll always be there for him.

Happy Father’s Day!

A Father Means ...I just spoke with my biological Father, our Dad, on the phone. I can honestly say that I have 2 Dads … my Mother’s husband Pat and Theodore, my Father. I miss them both so much! But not for much longer — what’s truly exciting about the conversation we just had is that my younger sister Aaron has officially set the date of her wedding for August 24th, this summer. Slade and I will both be flying home and spending quality time with everyone near and dear to us. Our bosses have yet to learn of our spontaneous plans, and hopefully it will not be too major an issue, with my work moving the same day I want to fly back to Ontario (my birthday, no less).

Father’s Day holds the emotion of both joy and sadness for our family; 20 years ago, my brother Kenny died while riding the motorcycle which provided freedom and joy to his world. Little did we know that he would gain his wings that Sunday June 19th.

Daddy's little girlI’ll never forget that day, when I flew back from Ottawa, into the waiting arms of my Father and my family. My brother wasn’t the only one who died that day … a piece of each one us left this world with Kenny. And we all miss him tremendously. Father’s Day … a time of both fond memories and of heartbreak. I write this with tears flowing down my face ….

My Father is such a rock in my life … so supportive; there is nothing that he would not sacrifice for his family. Dad is still one of the first persons whom I call when things go right… and when they fall apart. Many a day I have called to listen to his soothing voice, heart in pieces. Somehow, through it all, he sends his love and support across the airwaves, from afar, and I somehow at least feel a bit better, aching heart in tow.
So, on this August, I will be there to celebrate with him at Aaron’s wedding, as I was there for him in support when in own brother Ralph died this past November. In both good times and bad, I am privileged to have 2 Dads by my side who love, support, encourage and accept Katherine TC Weishar (aka sKY::). And I will do whatever it takes to be there for them whilst they live and breath and bless my life.